It’s Always Time to Get Kinky
While you might have been in your teen years when you first heard about some wilder adventures in the bedroom, you wouldn’t be alone if you were getting cold feet about the idea (even if other body parts felt a bit excited about it). You might go through plenty of adult years without truly indulging in such naughty things, but remember that it’s never too late to take a walk on the extra wild side in the bedroom. Read on to learn some tips for first-timers, and number one is obviously going to be:
Give It a Try!
It really doesn’t take much to get your feet wet in this world. Yes, everyone pictures the whips and leather and crawling around for your mistress, but kink play and fetishes come in all shapes, sizes, and levels of intensity.
There are plenty of ways to get started, and while it helps if your partner is open-minded and willing to try (even if it starts with some dirty talk and light spankings), but it’s never a bad time to get a professional involved. As you can guess, there are plenty of top-shelf dominatrixes that you can set up appointments with.
If it is your first time with a booking of this nature, you can be sure that they will be very polite and professional, and while the questions they ask before the meeting might seem very direct and a touch invasive, it is definitely for your own benefit. Finding the right person for your introduction is essential and there are plenty of websites out there that can help match you up not only with someone who is very easy on the eyes but can also give you the sort of experience that you are looking for.
You owe it yourself to read some London Escort Reviews before making your decision. Reading a short bio can tell you a lot about the person you might soon be meeting up with.
Sorting out the initials of BDSM and Beyond.
People use the term BDSM as an umbrella term for all things kinky and fetish-like, even though it is actually only one aspect of this wide world of pleasure. The letters pair off with each other, where the B (Bondage) likes to be tied up and told what to do by D (Dominant), while the S (Sadism) likes to be the one to inflict pain and shame upon the one who gets aroused by receiving it (Masochism).
Keep in mind that you are not expected to only be excited by one or the other. Sometimes you might be the one telling the other person what to do, and sometimes you are the one on all fours, wearing a collar and being led around on a leash. In this case, you are known as a ‘switch’. However, keep in mind that while you might like to go back and forth, not all people in this community feel the same.
There is also the matter of fetishes and turn-ons that don’t involve BDSM at all. It is possible to get turned on by all sorts of things. Certain objects, certain sounds, certain imaginary scenarios. It goes without saying that the internet can be a treasure-trove (or an eye-opener) to all the ways that some people find pleasure, but if you do even a bit of exploring, you’ll find that whatever you’re drawn to, there’s already a community there. Also, if you do want to find a companion who can share this with you, it’s quite easy to set it up.
Regardless of what gets you excited, keeping your feelings bottled up about your turn-ons is no solution at all, and it’s worth looking into the best ways to tell your partner about it. Not only is it good for your mental health and your relationship, but it’s going to be a lot of fun, as well.
Things to Keep In Mind
One of the first things you should know is that not every dominatrix offers the same range of services, and that includes things you might have assumed were given. Top of the list would be intercourse and oral sex. Many dominatrixes will state quite clearly on their websites or profile pages that they do not offer what many escorts do.
It makes sense that people assume getting any sort of arousal is linked with the most basic sex act out there, but this is not the case. They might touch you all over the place, but that doesn’t mean you are going to do the same thing to them. Also, if it is not clear in any way when you read up on them, make sure you double-check when making the booking, and not after. If you go into the scene expecting some usual positions around the end of your time together, you will be sorely disappointed to be informed it is not going to happen.
The one thing everyone seems to know about kinky sex is the safe word. The idea is that because things might get out of hand in terms of pain, discomfort, or embarrassment, there’s a word you can say that will stop the scene because maybe yelling ‘no, no, no!’ is part of the turn-on.
So yes, having a phrase that you probably would not yell while being pinched or spanked while on all fours - like ‘bangers and mash!’ - would be helpful. But what is more valuable is the conversation you have with the dominatrix or submissive before the scene begins. The more boundaries you set up, the more detailed your explanations for what you both want or do not want, the less likely you’ll end up in a situation where it is truly too far.